I discovered something important and useful today- It is not enough to be uncomplicated,straight-forward, clear-cut in your dealings, you also need to be perceived like that. This is especially true when it comes to relationships:-

We could spend many years or even a lifetime together, but nothing really prepares us for for the future changes. How you are perceived is as important as to how you are! If there is one thing which really hurts the most, it is to be judged- to be judged by people without enough data in hand, without enough evidence of that they speak. I read somewhere that the sure sign of a low mind is this- that you judge people and think of them as inferior to you without enough reasons to do that. This is BIAS and PREJUDICE in its purest form- “We don’t like something because we haven’t tried it and we feel not comfortable with it.If we try it, we may start to like it- this is bias.”

“We don’t like something, we do not want to try it, and we do not care how it is actually or NOT- we JUST don’t like it, infact hate it- this is prejudice.”

I know these definitions are not exactly dictionary material- but they will do for time being. I feel the least we can do is not to be judgemental about people, places, cultures- atleast not till we have tried them out, I think this is the least we can do. We hear the raise of intolerance in society everyday- rise of violence. Sometimes I think this violence happens because we citywallahs are too busy to hear anyone’s viewpoint, dismissing it as backward, orthodox and what not- it gives rise to violence and an excuse to people to engage in violence. You do not want to change your viewpoint about anything- YOU, who is educated, accomplished etc. and you expect a hardly literate or illiterate person to just give into your demands and do what you want-Is it not a form of violence too, violence of the mind???!!!

What does it take to do what we need to do,REALLY do it. I think:

• Passion,
• Determination,
• Attitude,
• self-motivation,
• hard-work

All the self-help books,and related media- books like “The Secret”, say the same thing- Dream and believe in the power of your dreams, believe in yourself and know that if you “act as if you will not fail,you will NOT fail”. By act ofcourse it means to work, not to pretend. I don’t know about this funda much, but in my own experiences- whenever I have done something with determination,and self-belief, I have succeeded, and whenever I have let self-doubt creep in- success has eluded me.

We talk and talk and talk. So, I thought why NOT to write instead- keep my mouth shut and mind open,atleast would try to.Here I go,you would think that I play safe,isn't it? qualifying my statements! you have an opinion and so do I. OK, may be you don't or may be you think mine is not important enough. Either way, what would you do to suppress mine? You may ask why should you suppress? Well, there are a number of reasons:

• You think I am an a*****e - the most likely  guess,
• I am talking non-sense,
• You don't like my opinion etc. etc.

But again- why would you NOT allow my opinion? Because- there are a number of reasons again. You do that to me all the time, you ask me when to talk, when to stand-up, when to sit down,when to listen, when to read, when to write, what to watch, what to eat, what to do!!!!

Who gave you the right to assume that all you do is right and all I even think is wrong.Who decides what is right and what is wrong? who judges who is good and who is bad?who gave the rights to whom?

Enough! I will do what I think is right, and what I think benefits me. I DO NOT want to be judged and I DO NOT WANT JUDGES ON MY HEAD.

You are the media, newspapers, politicians, police and the system- I am a citizen of this world. Let’s see who wins.