I discovered something important and useful today- It is not enough to be uncomplicated,straight-forward, clear-cut in your dealings, you also need to be perceived like that. This is especially true when it comes to relationships:-

We could spend many years or even a lifetime together, but nothing really prepares us for for the future changes. How you are perceived is as important as to how you are! If there is one thing which really hurts the most, it is to be judged- to be judged by people without enough data in hand, without enough evidence of that they speak. I read somewhere that the sure sign of a low mind is this- that you judge people and think of them as inferior to you without enough reasons to do that. This is BIAS and PREJUDICE in its purest form- “We don’t like something because we haven’t tried it and we feel not comfortable with it.If we try it, we may start to like it- this is bias.”

“We don’t like something, we do not want to try it, and we do not care how it is actually or NOT- we JUST don’t like it, infact hate it- this is prejudice.”

I know these definitions are not exactly dictionary material- but they will do for time being. I feel the least we can do is not to be judgemental about people, places, cultures- atleast not till we have tried them out, I think this is the least we can do. We hear the raise of intolerance in society everyday- rise of violence. Sometimes I think this violence happens because we citywallahs are too busy to hear anyone’s viewpoint, dismissing it as backward, orthodox and what not- it gives rise to violence and an excuse to people to engage in violence. You do not want to change your viewpoint about anything- YOU, who is educated, accomplished etc. and you expect a hardly literate or illiterate person to just give into your demands and do what you want-Is it not a form of violence too, violence of the mind???!!!